艳福不浅？

I have a question (or maybe 2)… How do u differentiate between being “friendly & sociable” to being “liberal & open-minded”? How would u react or feel when someone of the opposite sex behaves in an “over-friendly” manner? For most gals, I tink is quite straightforward tat u will feel offended when a guy (bf/hubby not included) gets too touchy or tok abt too private/sensitive/suggestive stuff…

Ok… b4 u misunderstand my purpose for toking abt tis topic, tinking tat I did something to outrage some gal’s modesty… I DID NOT… I am blogging actually to find out abt the other perspective… when a gal behaves in a manner tat borders on the edge of flirtation/seduction, how should the guy react? Take note tat the Q states “on the edge of”, meaning it’s not realli seduction in the sense like stripping in front of the guy, but rather maybe in a subtle or unintentional way…

Ok ok… no point going around in circles… I’ll juz go straight to the point… I got to know tis gal thru a fren… she’s a close fren of my fren and I onli got to know her on a group outing abt 3 months ago… we cun even be considered real friends, maybe juz acquaintances, since we onli know each others’ names and onli meet on our group outings with our common fren…

Ok (too many oks)… now to describe her… as u can guess from the opening part of tis long-winded post, she is very… umm… “friendly”… althou we are not beri close and haven’t known each other for long, she tells me everything under the sun (or in my own words, everything under the skirt)… in our 1st conversation, I oredi knew things like her menses, her cup-size, wat brand/colour of bra/panty she wears (Impt Note: I din ask her hor… she juz told me in the course of our conversation)…

Ok (again)… at first I tot she’s onli beri vocal & direct in her speech… but her behavior even portrayed her “friendliness” further… she would occasionally place her hand on my thigh when toking… when we took neoprint, she hugged my waist with both hands (my other fren, whom I knew longer & much closer, onli hooked my hand)… then got one point when we in the ktv, she said she’s tired and told me “借我靠一下”… I tot she juz meant leaning her head on my arm or shoulder so I din reject… Guess wat she did? She HUGGED me from the back… umm… how to describe… her hands came round from the back to the front around the stomach area (luckily/unluckily not lower… oops)… her whole front was leaning against my back… and to let u have a beta idea of how up close she was getting, her chin was resting against the side of my neck… hope u can imagine…

I was realli stumped at tat moment… my body practically froze… I din dare to move, fearing tat the movement would cause rubbing btw my back and her *cough cough* assets… I am not trying to act virgin here, but having someone u dun know tat well behave so intimately is realli awkward & uncomfortable… *ponders*… ok maybe juz awkward… oops…

Ok (stop it !!!)… b4 tis begins to look like a “bei hiao bai” post, like I’m trying to “hao lian” tat some gal is hitting on me… I have no such intention… and she’s NOT hitting on me… I honestly believe she’s juz realli friendly & sociable… she juz behaves in a manner tat’s not common in Asian society…

Feeling abit luan now coz I’m meeting her again tmr… at a loss of how to behave in a manner tat is considered both polite and appropriate towards her… I mean… I cun juz freeze and “stone” every time she surprises me with her actions… reciprocate with the same treatment? Nah… will make me feel like I’m taking advantage of her… I may be humsup by nature but I do respect women… try to keep a distance? Hmm… will tat make me appear unfriendly and rude?

Haiz… suan le… I’ll juz wait n see how things go tmr… umm… then in the end, tis post turns out to be useless… chey…nv mind lah… juz for me to pour out my confused tots… and for ur entertainment…